Well this was definitely a Thanksgiving week to remember. The Friday before it I started feeling...off. I thought maybe I didn't get enough sleep the night before or something and my immune system was paying for it. Nope. It, it was...FLU...POISONING.
My mom was really good to me and I went to her house all day on Saturday while Tom was working on a super fun project that I'll share with you all later! Anyway, I just started feeling worse and worse. I developed a fever the next evening and everything went down hill. On top of everything my wisdom teeth started coming in, I started getting cold sore after cold sore, my glands were swolen...the whole nine yards. I was miserable. I started taking my misery out on Tom and I was getting easily frustrated with Charlotte. She was so good all week but I would get so upset at the slightest little cry from her. It wasn't like me at all.
Our apartment was suuuuch a mess. I couldn't find any energy or motivation to get up and get anything done. I laid on the couch (usually at my mom's because I'm a baby) and felt sorry for myself.
I ended up having a great Thanksgiving with my family but that night I started feeling really terrible about my behavior that last week. I called my mom in tears and asked her if she could help me with my motivation. She agreed to come over the next day and get me in gear. I wanted her to watch Charlotte for me while I cleaned up but she did so much more. She did what seemed like a mountain of dishes for me, cleaned my whole kitchen, she even scrubbed my burner plates just because she could. But, most importantly, she gave me the best pep talk. She reminded me that I need to look for the positive aspects in every situation. I have never been good at that. I think I was infamous for being a negative person a few years ago. It was like a bad habit. Anything bad happened and there I was thinking about how awful I had it and how hard everything was for me. I complained a lot.
Since Charlotte was born I have been much better about staying positive. I think it's because I had no choice. I was in the trenches of exhaustion, emotions, pain, everything. I learned then and there that the only way I was going to survive was to hold my head up and take everything as it came. I needed to think positively so that's exactly what I did! I lost all of that in the last week but my mom helped me snap back into it. My husband did too. And my baby girl. Things have been so much better. People have told me my whole life to "look on the bright side" and to "make the best of it"! I thought they were silly and that it was cliche'. I thought, "They just don't understand how hard I have it". I was wrong. (Family members reading this - take a screen shot because you may never hear me (see me?) say (type?) that again.) ;)
This simple little thing - thinking positively - has honestly changed my life. I often think, "How on earth did I live so negatively before? How did I not at least give positivity a try?" I'll never know. But I thrive on it now.
You know when you've been working on a goal for a long time and you finally realize that you did it? You made it? You've succeeded! Well, slowly, since Charlotte was born, I didn't realize it but I was becoming much more of a positive person. I didn't even notice it until one day my sister-in-law said, "You always have such a positive way of looking at things!" (Hey, Laura!) I seriously and honestly thought she was kidding. Or talking about someone else. Or crazy. But then it hit me - she was right. I've changed. I'm not telling you this to brag about myself or something, honestly. I just really want my blog to be about inspiring people and helping those who read it. I want to share my life lessons in hopes that you all can learn them the easy way, through my mistakes, instead of learning the hard way through your own.
I challenge you all to think happily and positively! I know from experience it's not easy. You just have to work at it! But, in time, you'll realize that when you were least expecting it you ended up changing for the better. One of these days when your breaks go out on your car you'll think, "I'm so happy that my father-in-law fixed it for me. I'm so grateful for that" instead of, "Nothing is going my way today! Ugh!" Just give it a try!
Let me know if you have a story about learning to think positively. I'd love to hear! You might inspire others with your story too. You can email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org, you can comment below, tweet me (@hannahnaegele) or write on my new Facebook page here! (Don't forget to "like" my Facebook page too!)
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My name is Hannah and I'm a lucky wife to Tom, and mama bear to two sweet girls - Charlotte & Rosalie. Coffee, lipstick, sunshine, and dresses are some of my favorite things! I love to blog about God, motherhood, "wifeyhood", food, health and much more.
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